Meet Our Contributors: Sonal's Story
Meet our Through, Not Around Contributors!
Introducing Sonal Champsee: a wonderful writer and her essay is just awesome. You can check an excerpt of her essay in Today's Parent: https://www.todaysparent.com/getting-pregnant/trying-to-conceive/i-knew-infertility-was-a-thing-i-just-never-imagined-it-would-be-my-thing/
1) Why did you decide to share your story in Through, Not Around and with the 16 Percent community?
I've always been open about infertility. Partly, that's just because of who I am--I can't go through something this big without being able to talk about it. Our odds were very low, and so if the day came that we walked away from this process without kids, I wanted everyone who knew us to understand exactly why that was, and (hopefully) stop any stupid and hurtful comments.
What I've discovered by being open is that there are many, many people going through infertility, but no one talks about it. It is such a normal and common experience, but somehow this is one medical problem no one feels like they can talk about. And consequently, people who don't understand infertility put a lot of salt on these wounds through thoughtless comments and bad advice.
2) Has writing about your experience helped you heal in any way? What have you learned through this experience so far?
I'm a writer, and I've talked about infertility throughout this process, and so writing down the story didn't change much for me. But what occurred to me in writing my story is that so many popular stories about infertility stop with a miracle baby, but the reality of it is that many people don't go home with a miracle baby. Even those that do, the emotional effects of infertility don't magically evaporate once there's a baby in the picture.
3) What is your favourite quote?
More of a motto than a quote: Happiness is for the brave.